I said a few days ago that I was glad we were emigrating soon as it would mean fewer opportunities for emotional blackmail from my wife’s parents.
They visited us this weekend and it was difficult. They were in a questioning mood…
* What if I can’t get a job in Canada? I’ll be throwing away a well paid one here and might not ever get another one…..
* What if there’s a serious illness in the family and we’re in Canada? Would we come back to lend support?……
* Will we come back often to visit? because they are getting a bit old for long-haul flights…..
* Although it’s a bit late in life, what if we have children…. would we come back so their grandparents could see them regularly?….
I must admit, I do now feel guilty about emigrating… and clearly this was the whole intent behind the questions they were asking.
… and then I feel angry that they’re trying to manipulate us.
… and then I think “but these are legitimate questions. If they make us feel so bad, maybe we shouldn’t be emigrating”.
… and then I think about how fed up I am with Scotland and the UK and how trapped I feel and the fact that I just want to get away and do something new.
I’m going to bed soon but I think it will be a troubled night and I hope I don’t lie awake too long worrying about it all.
With my current interest in immigration matters, I noticed that the US Senate has passed a bill to ramp up annual employment-based immigration from 140,000 to 650,000. This category of immigration allows permanent residency in the United States.
Given that American wages tend to be higher than Canadian wages, I’m sure the Canadian government is not exactly pleased about this news.
Countries like the USA, Canada and Australia compete with one another for skilled migrants and I’m sure Canada and Australia will suffer if the United States adopts these new immigration targets.
The cynic in me also wonders whether there might be ulterior motives on the part of the USA for increasing their quota of skilled migrants so much. I believe the answer is yes.
I would imagine large numbers of skilled people will be sucked out of India and China into the USA.
Whose economy will benefit from a large increase in skilled workers? The USA’s.
Whose economies will suffer from the depletion of their most skilled and talented people? China’s and India’s.
I believe the USA may be out to sabotage the economic growth of its potential rivals India and, especially, China.
The United States can offer much higher wages than these upcoming economies – for the moment.
While this situation persists, the USA will use its attractiveness as a migrant-destination to hinder India and China’s economic development by poaching large numbers of their most economically productive and most innovative workers.
We invited my parents to a meal yesterday and my wife’s parents came this evening. My parents have accepted that we’re emigrating. I can’t say they’re dancing and singing in the streets with joy about it, but they have accepted it. There was no attempt to dissuade us.
My parents are very good that way. They’ve always (since I left school) had a philosophy of not trying to interfere in any decisions I’ve taken. They see it as my life and I’ve got to live it as I see fit.
We had a much harder time from my wife’s parents – particularly her mother. They are treating the issue as one of rejection – their daughter (thankfully they didn’t try to blame me – yet) is moving a long way away from them – obviously she can’t love them, etc, etc. It was a pretty harrowing evening.
All I can say is I’m glad we’re making the move sooner rather than later. It will mean fewer opportunities for the emotional blackmail that I’m sure her parents are plotting, even as I type. At least we’ve got it over with. Our employers and both of our parents both know what we are going to do. Now all we’ve got to do is sell our house, ship our furniture, move to Canada, try to get jobs and start a whole new life.
What an interesting day it’s been.
We both did the deeds we had said we would – we resigned. I hadn’t spoken to anyone at work before about the possibility of emigrating, so I knew it was going to be a surprise.
I made an appointment with my boss in his office and – like a naughty boy going to see the headmaster – turned up at the allotted time. I was surprisingly nervous – I’ve never resigned before – and it was an odd feeling. I’ve always done my best at work – never shirked – and it seemed a bit disloyal to be resigning. I knew it wasn’t really disloyal – employees come, employees go – but that’s still how it felt at the time. I told him my news – we had decided to emigrate and I’d like to give my notice. He nodded. It was all very calm and matter of fact.
Then – wonder of wonders – he said he doesn’t blame me for emigrating. Scotland / the UK – call it what you will – is “going down the pan at a rapid rate of knots” he said – and if it wasn’t for his family situation, he’d be doing the same thing himself!
So, in the end, it was a much easier experience than I thought it would be. He says he’ll be happy to give me a very good reference to any employer in Canada who asks, and he wished me the best of luck for the future.
I got the same reaction from most of the people I told – they thought we were doing exactly the right thing and they wished they were emigrating too. One or two people were a bit put out – they seemed to think we were committing some sort of act of treason against Scotland by leaving. I suppose it takes all sorts.
Tomorrow’s the next tough step, telling my parents that we’re moving several thousand miles away from them. The emigration business is certainly a tough experience emotionally, if nothing else!